What a man wants in a relationship

1.       Give Gratitude for who he is, adore him, faults and all. Acknowledge what you love about him, his masculinity, his intelligence, his strength – tell him!

2.       Have no expectations. About how he “should” demonstrate his love for you, about how he “should” show up in the relationship, about how he “should” behave. Unmet expectations cause conflict. Give without expectation, without agenda, for no other reason than that you want to, for no other reason than that you love him

3.       Play all in – be fully present in the relationship, make the relationship your top priority.

4.       Do not criticise. EVER.

5.       Forgive. Again and again and again.

6.       Be direct. Be real. Communicate. Ask assertively for what you want and need. Do not manipulate. Do not play games.

7.       Respect – acknowledge him, all that he is, all that he does, all that he attempts

8.       Do not seek to control. Offer him Freedom and Acceptance

9.       Be his biggest fan. Lead his fan club. Cheer him on. Support him in all he does.

10.   Let him know you see him. Let him feel safe to be vulnerable.

11.   Sex – be physical, touch him, initiate, appreciate his maleness, tell him what turns you on, focus on your own fulfilment (guys will look after their own) be open, be vulnerable, be kinky, be dark if you want. Keep it interesting and exciting and fun. Men often express love through sex. If he feels deprived of sex it’s likely he will feel deprived of love. It needs to be frequent and meaningful. Create a sacred space and let him know you desire him.