What a woman wants in a relationship

1.       Court her, Date her – win her again and again……everyday. Never take her for granted. Do not get lazy. Fight to win her love. Make an effort. Show up consistently.

2.       Always see the best. You see what you focus on. Ignore what irritates you. Remember and act as though you are the luckiest man alive to have this wonderful woman in your life.

3.       Learn what makes her feel cherished, loved and validated. Do more of those things. Ask her to make a list ……and then do them! Find out what her love language is and express love to her in a way that she understands.

4.       Be present. Give her your time, your full attention, all your focus, be fully with her. Act as though she is THE most important thing in your world when you are together.

5.       Be willing to be vulnerable. Share feelings and fears.

6.       Be honest, be transparent, Be real. Share. Drop the façade, the mask. Do not feel as though you have to show up perfect. She will trust you.

7.       Work at a meaningful connection, emotional engagement. Don’t distance yourself emotionally, not even during conflict.

8.       Lead her fan club, support her, compliment her, tell others how wonderful she is, both in her presence and in her absence

9.       Allow her to express her emotions fully. Creating a safe container where she can express her emotions and not disparaging her emotions or belittling her for being an emotional being will make her feel safe. Do not fear her emotions, do not run away or turn away. Stay present and rock solid. Do not be impatient. Allow her to work through them and fully express them.

10.    Do not feel as though you need to fix her. Offer your silent compassion and empathy if she is feeling emotional. Simply to be held is a powerful solution.

11.   Sex – take her. Win her, woo her. Step up and be a man. Be strong. Be masculine and be dominant. Make her feel as though she is the sexiest thing in the world and that you lust after her.